Though breastfeeding is often seen as mum’s domain. But dads, you’ve got a bigger role than just making the odd cup of tea. From emotional cheerleader to midnight bottle wizard, your presence can make a real difference.
There’s this old-school idea that breastfeeding is a one-woman job. But any mum who’s been through it will tell you while she may be the one doing the actual feeding, it takes a team to make it work.
More and more South African families are cottoning on to this, and the results speak for themselves: happier mums, healthier babies, and stronger, more connected parenting partnerships.
“Breastfeeding doesn’t just impact the baby and the mother – it shapes the family dynamic,” says Sr Londe, independent midwife and trusted advisor for Vital Baby. “When dads step in to support the process, it creates a ripple effect of encouragement and connection.”
While mums do the feeding (unless they’re expressing), the success and longevity of breastfeeding often rest on whether dads are tuned in and on board.
In fact, research backs this up. When dads are clued up, involved and positive about breastfeeding, mums are more likely to get started, feel confident and keep going. A study in the Journal of Human Lactation even found that mums were twice as likely to still be breastfeeding at six months if they felt supported by their partner.
So, what does a supportive breastfeeding dad actually do?
Spoiler: It’s not about doing everything. It’s about showing up in small, meaningful ways. Like:
Being her hype man
The early weeks can be tough. Sore nipples, sleepless nights, tears (sometimes from both mum and baby). Your job? Listen, encourage, and remind her that she’s doing brilliantly even when she doubts herself.
Doing the little things
Nappy changes, burping the baby, sterilising bottles and pumps, or giving the baby a cuddle so she can shower in peace. These small acts make a massive difference.
Getting informed
“Men don’t have to guess their way through it,” says Sr Londe. “Learn about how breastfeeding works, understand what mum is going through, and show her she’s not alone.” That might mean joining antenatal classes, reading a bit, or simply asking questions.
Helping with night feeds
If baby’s having expressed milk or formula now and then, take a turn on night duty. Not only does it help mum rest, but it’s a brilliant way to bond with your baby, too.
It’s time to shake off the old narrative that dads only step up once baby starts solids. Today’s fathers are getting involved from the start. “The more we normalise the role of dads in early feeding and baby care, the more we support families as a whole,” says Sr Londe. “Breastfeeding is not a women-only world – it’s a family journey.”
